Somchai
01-05-2008, 05:39 AM
Safe Sex - Always wear your hat.
Ive been visiting or living here in Thailand for over 10 years. I know loads of ladyboys here in Pattaya. I would not describe any of them as close personal friends. It’s very difficult to be close friends with anyone some 20 – 30 years younger than oneself and a different culture makes it even more difficult. That being said, I have a number of close acquaintances amongst the many ladyboys that I know and with these there is between us, I think, a degree of genuine affection.
One such ladyboy was Nok (not her real name). I first met her about 6 years ago. To the best of my recollection she was then about 19 years old and an absolute stunner. She in fact was an illegal worker in Thailand. She was a Laos national and carried a Laos passport. She lived in Vientiane and traveled into Thailand on 2 monthly tourist visas. Once into Thailand she headed for her familiar place of work in Soi 6 Pattaya. For those that don’t know Soi 6 Pattaya has a singular reputation. Most of the premises on the street are closed fronted short time bars. Each of the 50 or more bars in the street employ 10 or more girls or ladyboys whose mission is to get you in to their bar to buy a drink and then get you upstairs for short time sex so as to relieve you of some more of your unwanted money.
Nok worked at one of these places and was very good at her work. What made her so good was not only her very good looks but also her personality. She always seemed so genuine, straightforward and honest. We became close acquaintances. When I was in town I would make a point of visiting her in the bar at least once a week. On a couple of occasions I was in town and confined in my condo due to some minor illness, so I phoned her to say I could not make it to see her. Within 30 minutes she was knocking on my door and announcing that she had come to take care of me which she did. She would stay over night and go out to buy food and medicine. She would not accept any money for her services.
At that time I was living up country in my house in Buriram with my then girlfriend and visiting Pattaya every month for a few days. That relationship ended and I moved permanently to Pattaya. Nok was very sympathetic and very angry at the way I had been treated by my former girlfriend. She started telling me that I should be with someone decent like her older sister. And so it transpired that a few months later her sister arrived at my place in Pattaya “to take care of me”.
She had been staying with me at that point for just a week when she received a phone call. She remained on the phone talking for a long time and mostly she was crying her eyes out. She proceeded to cry for the next two days. All my attempts to get an explanation were met with “I promise already I not tell you”.
Then finally the truth. The distressing call had been from her ladyboy sister Nok. On the day of the call Nok had gone to Bangkok to get silicone breast implants fitted. As a matter of routine, the hospital did a range of blood tests. During this process they ascertained that Nok was HIV positive and would not continue with the surgery.
Both Nok and her sister were devastated. As also were their parents and family in Vientiane. Their father insisted that they return home immediately. Both prevaricated. Both were in a state of shock for many days. Both thought it an immediate death sentence and feared the pain of social stigma back home for all the family.
Nok and her sister and I talked a lot about HIV and AIDs and what she could and should do to stay as healthy as possible. Also her sisters and families fears of catching it from Nok were addressed. Their parents were convinced that it was all down to the evil that was Pattaya. My girlfriend returned home after a month to renew her visa. She phoned me a few days later to say that she would not be returning to Thailand.
Nok, very appropriately told me that she would have to stop working in the bars as it would be wrong to risk infecting anyone. She started to look for work in restaurants and hotels. She said that whilst the money was poor compared to what she earned from going with men it was still much better than she could earn in Laos and that way she could continue to send a little money home until she became sick and could not work.
With her changing her lifestyle and infact her phone number, as her phone was stolen, I lost touch with her. Imagine my surprise when six months later I saw her sat outside her old bar in her working clothes ie skimpy top, a short skirt and high heels. She asked me into the bar for a drink. I was happy to see her and she looked very well. We spent about an hour catching up on family and other things and then I asked her. What are you doing back working in a bar? Her face darkened. She explained to me that in the past, whilst working for three years there had only been two men to whom she had granted unprotected sex with her. Both of them were younger Caucasians who worked on the Eastern seaboard of Thailand. She said that they were both married to Thai girls and that she had loved them both and allowed them both unprotected sex because of her love. Then she got angry. “One of them have killed me” she said. “ Now I will go with any man who wants without a condom so I can kill many Fellangs before I die!”
We talked. I got nowhere. Yes I know the psychologically state of anger and denial she must have been cycling through but she was deliberately and cynically infecting others whilst she worked it out. I got angry with her. She told me where to go! I left the bar.
I pondered on what to do. I could tell the bar owner. If he believed me maybe he’d sack her. Then she would just go and work in another bar. I talked to my police friend. He said no one would want to go and arrest and deport her - for say working illegally – as maybe she would bite and infect them. Or maybe she would come and bite me!!
So I let it go. I saw her sat outside the bar on many later occasions as I walked down the street but we never spoke together again. It’s now probably more than a year since I last saw her outside her bar.
And you, one of her two boyfriends, whoever you are out there. Were you ignorant of your HIV status at the time or did you know and continue to cynically infect others, because someone gave it to you?.
So lads- always keep your hat on- because you just never know.
Posted by Admin as the author wishes to remain anonymous.
Ive been visiting or living here in Thailand for over 10 years. I know loads of ladyboys here in Pattaya. I would not describe any of them as close personal friends. It’s very difficult to be close friends with anyone some 20 – 30 years younger than oneself and a different culture makes it even more difficult. That being said, I have a number of close acquaintances amongst the many ladyboys that I know and with these there is between us, I think, a degree of genuine affection.
One such ladyboy was Nok (not her real name). I first met her about 6 years ago. To the best of my recollection she was then about 19 years old and an absolute stunner. She in fact was an illegal worker in Thailand. She was a Laos national and carried a Laos passport. She lived in Vientiane and traveled into Thailand on 2 monthly tourist visas. Once into Thailand she headed for her familiar place of work in Soi 6 Pattaya. For those that don’t know Soi 6 Pattaya has a singular reputation. Most of the premises on the street are closed fronted short time bars. Each of the 50 or more bars in the street employ 10 or more girls or ladyboys whose mission is to get you in to their bar to buy a drink and then get you upstairs for short time sex so as to relieve you of some more of your unwanted money.
Nok worked at one of these places and was very good at her work. What made her so good was not only her very good looks but also her personality. She always seemed so genuine, straightforward and honest. We became close acquaintances. When I was in town I would make a point of visiting her in the bar at least once a week. On a couple of occasions I was in town and confined in my condo due to some minor illness, so I phoned her to say I could not make it to see her. Within 30 minutes she was knocking on my door and announcing that she had come to take care of me which she did. She would stay over night and go out to buy food and medicine. She would not accept any money for her services.
At that time I was living up country in my house in Buriram with my then girlfriend and visiting Pattaya every month for a few days. That relationship ended and I moved permanently to Pattaya. Nok was very sympathetic and very angry at the way I had been treated by my former girlfriend. She started telling me that I should be with someone decent like her older sister. And so it transpired that a few months later her sister arrived at my place in Pattaya “to take care of me”.
She had been staying with me at that point for just a week when she received a phone call. She remained on the phone talking for a long time and mostly she was crying her eyes out. She proceeded to cry for the next two days. All my attempts to get an explanation were met with “I promise already I not tell you”.
Then finally the truth. The distressing call had been from her ladyboy sister Nok. On the day of the call Nok had gone to Bangkok to get silicone breast implants fitted. As a matter of routine, the hospital did a range of blood tests. During this process they ascertained that Nok was HIV positive and would not continue with the surgery.
Both Nok and her sister were devastated. As also were their parents and family in Vientiane. Their father insisted that they return home immediately. Both prevaricated. Both were in a state of shock for many days. Both thought it an immediate death sentence and feared the pain of social stigma back home for all the family.
Nok and her sister and I talked a lot about HIV and AIDs and what she could and should do to stay as healthy as possible. Also her sisters and families fears of catching it from Nok were addressed. Their parents were convinced that it was all down to the evil that was Pattaya. My girlfriend returned home after a month to renew her visa. She phoned me a few days later to say that she would not be returning to Thailand.
Nok, very appropriately told me that she would have to stop working in the bars as it would be wrong to risk infecting anyone. She started to look for work in restaurants and hotels. She said that whilst the money was poor compared to what she earned from going with men it was still much better than she could earn in Laos and that way she could continue to send a little money home until she became sick and could not work.
With her changing her lifestyle and infact her phone number, as her phone was stolen, I lost touch with her. Imagine my surprise when six months later I saw her sat outside her old bar in her working clothes ie skimpy top, a short skirt and high heels. She asked me into the bar for a drink. I was happy to see her and she looked very well. We spent about an hour catching up on family and other things and then I asked her. What are you doing back working in a bar? Her face darkened. She explained to me that in the past, whilst working for three years there had only been two men to whom she had granted unprotected sex with her. Both of them were younger Caucasians who worked on the Eastern seaboard of Thailand. She said that they were both married to Thai girls and that she had loved them both and allowed them both unprotected sex because of her love. Then she got angry. “One of them have killed me” she said. “ Now I will go with any man who wants without a condom so I can kill many Fellangs before I die!”
We talked. I got nowhere. Yes I know the psychologically state of anger and denial she must have been cycling through but she was deliberately and cynically infecting others whilst she worked it out. I got angry with her. She told me where to go! I left the bar.
I pondered on what to do. I could tell the bar owner. If he believed me maybe he’d sack her. Then she would just go and work in another bar. I talked to my police friend. He said no one would want to go and arrest and deport her - for say working illegally – as maybe she would bite and infect them. Or maybe she would come and bite me!!
So I let it go. I saw her sat outside the bar on many later occasions as I walked down the street but we never spoke together again. It’s now probably more than a year since I last saw her outside her bar.
And you, one of her two boyfriends, whoever you are out there. Were you ignorant of your HIV status at the time or did you know and continue to cynically infect others, because someone gave it to you?.
So lads- always keep your hat on- because you just never know.
Posted by Admin as the author wishes to remain anonymous.